Do you remember how you enjoyed life as a kid? When we were young, nothing seemed complicated – all we had to think about was happy things, playing and exploring the world around us. We didn’t worry about what we didn’t know. For most of us life was pretty care-free.
But as we grow older, we sometimes get anxious about the events and circumstances in our life. We begin to worry about things like success and failure, loving and parting, life and death, to name a few. Sometimes the worry turns into fear, fear of failure, fear of loss, fear of death or illness, etc… And, the worry and fear adds to our anxiety or depression and is partly what causes stress.
Mahatma Gandi once said: “There is nothing that wastes the body like worry, and one who has any faith in God should be ashamed to worry about anything whatsoever”
He also shared, “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.” Another way to look at this is that nothing that happens to us in our lives can bother or hurt us, unless we allow it. So basically, it all comes down to our thoughts and how we react and feel.
So, try to always keep this in mind: Don’t take things as if they are responsible for the way you feel. Events or situations do not trouble you. How you perceive them does.
If you miss those carefree times, you just have to look back at how you used to see things when you were young, and you will know how to reduce your stress and anxiety.
Here are a few thoughts about ways to be happy, so you don’t worry!
Cherish the simple things: Trust in the power of a smile or laughter, a kiss or a hug.
Believe in kindness, honesty, dreams, and imagination. Living and thinking positively is the first step to becoming truly happy. Attitude is everything!
Loosen up. Laugh at your mistakes. You might remember the time when you were in the middle of delivering a speech and your mind went completely blank right in the middle of it. It’s was embarrassing. But most likely, your audience forgot about it in after a day or two. We all mess up occasionally, nobody is perfect. When we do make a mistake, it’s best to try to learn from it and not be so hard on ourselves, or others either.
Surround yourself with what and who you love. Adopt a pet. Save and cherish the good memories of your life as keepsakes in your mind and when you need a mental boost, remember them.
Stay away from people that drag you down or make you feel bad. If that high-paying job makes you cringe at the thought of having to go to work, find a job you like better. If some people want you to do things you don’t agree with, avoid their company.
Don’t put things off. Go on that trip. Take your Master’s. You’ll never know the extent of what you can accomplish in your life, unless you try. Write down your dreams and believe you can make them come true. Don’t let others steal your dream. You can do it!
Don’t push yourself too hard trying to please everyone. You just can’t. And it never seems to be worth it anyway. When you want to make somebody’s day, start with yourself and your loved ones. Having a happy attitude is contagious…
Keep fit. Be that attractive person you always picture yourself to be. Cherish your health and your unique body type. It’s the best way of showing you are confident and strong. Love yourself.
Do not assume. Don’t fret about forgetting your speech before you actually do it. Don’t worry about not getting the job you want because you might mess up at the interview. Don’t expect the worst, because thoughts are things and you might end up there.
Alter your way of thinking. When you’re being ridiculed, criticized about your family background, or condemned for past mistakes, don’t take it to heart. You know yourself better than anyone else does. Never wallow in self-pity or allow yourself to be a victim.
Remember: Don’t get upset over things just because it’s how most people would react when faced with the same situation. When you find yourself being negative – angry, sad, depressed, jealous, etc. – you also unknowingly drain your energy and enthusiasm. You just have to try not to have these negative feelings, because giving in to these emotions can sometimes make you unreasonable, and you might end up making bad choices.
Happiness is always within your reach. You can be happy and reduce your stress, as long as you remember these things.